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Annemarie Sansom

DIRECTORS BLOG

Hi, my name is Annemarie and I am the Client Services director for Night Nannies. I use this blog as a way to give you tips and idea's in all areas of childcare and development.

Posted 02 April 09

Easter School Holiday Nanny

Can you believe its already coming up to Easter for 2009? I certainly cant. We have many fantastic Nannies available and looking for work. During the School holidays we always have fully qualified Teachers available to care for your children during the holidays. Maybe you have another family you can Nanny share with to reduce costs? Hire a Nanny for a week or two and allow your children to go on fun excursions, have planned activities in and around the home and also just have relaxing fun like they should be during their School holidays.

Posted 07 April 09

Controlled crying versus non controlled crying - Gentle techniques

The big debate - Controlled crying versus non controlled.

The debate on these two topics has always been heated with Grandparents and Mothers groups swearing by their own tried and tested methods.

Firstly what is controlled crying and where did it come from?

Controlled crying is a method that was created by Dr Truby King http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Truby_King who wrote the book Feeding and Care of Baby in 1913. Dr King was a Surgeon and specialist in Neurological disorders. Seen as somewhat revolutionary for his time when he helped to establish The Plunkett Society in 1907 and Child Public Health Services in England. Dr Kings were controversial as they still are today in that he believed women should not gain a higher education as it would effect their maternal function and have a damaging effect on the human race. Truby King's methods specifically emphasised regularity of feeding, sleeping and bowel movements, within a generally strict regimen supposed to build character by avoiding cuddling and other attention. Dr Kings methods continued in popularity until the 1950's.

These methods did not sit well with all Parents and there was much controversy in relation to Parents being able to cuddle their babies and to not have such a regimented routine.

American paediatrician Dr Benjamin Spock published a book in 1946 called "The Common Sense Book of Baby and Child Care". Spocks revolutionary message to mothers was that "you know more than you think you do." Spock was the first paediatrician to study psychoanalysis to try to understand children's needs and family dynamics. His ideas about childcare influenced several generations of parents to be more flexible and affectionate with their children, and to treat them as individuals, whereas the previous conventional wisdom had been that child rearing should focus on building discipline, and that, e.g., babies should not be "spoiled" by picking them up when they cried. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Benjamin_Spock)

"Previously, experts had told parents that babies needed to learn to sleep on a regular schedule, and that picking them up and holding them whenever they cried would only teach them to cry more and not to sleep through the night. They were told to feed their children on a regular schedule, and that they should not pick them up, kiss them, or hug them, because that would not prepare them to be strong and independent individuals in a harsh world. Spock encouraged parents to see their children as individuals, and not to apply a one-size-fits all philosophy to them."

Controlled crying is that of to control the cries of your child. This has changed over the years to become more politically correct "controlled comforting or controlled settling". The method has been adapted in Sleep clinics and Sleep Hospitals from Dr Kings 1950's method to a timing method where you place the child into the cot and then leave the room for 1 minute and return then leave for 2 minutes and return and then leave for 3 minutes and return gradually allowing the child to cry then stop, cry then stop until the child falls asleep.

Feedback from Parents on this method is anything from immediate success to the affect lasting a week right through to traumatic experiences where the child becomes so distressed and is hysterical, even getting to the point of vomiting. One sleep School currently in operation still tells parents to use this method and when the child vomits to not look at the child, clean up the vomit and leave the room with the baby still hysterical as apparently the child is showing a manipulative behaviour hence the reason it allegedly forced itself to vomit.

Other adaptations to the traditional controlled crying method is comfort settling attending to your child, patting, resettling and then leaving the child to cry for short bouts before returning. This method is to teach the child how to "self settle."

There is then the extreme opposite of these methods which is called "The continuum concept". http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Continuum_concept Proposed by Jean Liedloff in her book The Continuum Concept. According to Liedloff, in order to achieve optimal physical, mental and emotional development, human beings—especially babies—require the kind of experience to which their species adapted during the long process of their evolution. For infants, these include such experiences as:

The infant being placed immediately in the mother's arms at birth, and from then on carried constantly in arms or otherwise in contact with someone, usually the mother, and allowed to observe (or nurse, or sleep) while the carrier goes about his or her business—until the infant begins creeping, then crawling on his/her own impulse, usually at six to eight months; Co-sleeping in the parents' bed, in constant physical contact, until leaving of their own volition (often about two years); Breastfeeding "on cue"—nursing in response to the child's body's signals; Having caregivers immediately respond to body signals (squirming, crying, etc.), without judgment, displeasure, or invalidation of the child's needs, yet showing no undue concern nor making the child the constant centre of attention; Sensing (and fulfilling) elders' expectations that he or she is innately social and cooperative and has strong self-preservation instincts, and that he or she is welcome and worthy. Some families follow some where in between Spocks methods and Leidloffs methods and find a successful medium. Others work in between Kings methods and Spocks and also find success. It is up to each family to decide what they are comfortable with and what works for them. There are so many experts and books and family members offering advice that sometimes you need to just believe in your own instincts and own abilities to find what works best for you.

The Australian Breastfeeding Association has an article on their website discussing controlled crying and the definition from the Macquarie Dictionary which is defines control as: to exercise restraint or direction over; dominate; command; to hold in check; to curb. http://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/bfinfo/crying.html

There is also a published position paper from the Australian Infant Mental Health Association which discusses the research showing that controlled crying can possibly lead to anxiety problems later in life. http://www.aaimhi.org/documents/position%20papers/controlled_crying.pdf

I remember reading an article when we were researching alternate methods for Night Nannies but mostly in relation to my own baby at the time 5 years ago about a baby bird that is abandoned by its Mother in its nest. The Baby bird chirps and chirps hoping its Mother will come back. It doesn't understand why its Mother has left and not returned to attend to its chirps and to make it feel safe. The baby bird does this until finally it has no more energy and realises its Mother is not going to return and goes quiet, giving up hope and does not chirp anymore. It made me wonder if this is what our babies think when we practice this type of method of controlled crying on them.

Having worked with babies and children for nearly 20 years and a qualification in Early Childhood Development I still questioned methods I had learnt as a young newly qualified Child Care Worker and Maternity Nanny but not until I had my own baby 5 years ago when I suddenly realised the depth of emotional bonding and attachment and how important it is. How my breasts would ache and leak milk when I heard my baby cry. How I would become distressed when my baby was distressed. Did leaving my baby to cry it out and get so upset that he would bang his head on the cot in hysteria sit well with me? no way! Everyone I called for help followed the same methods and philosophy to just leave your baby to cry. The Early Childhood Nurses said the same thing at the local Baby Clinic and so did the Mothers in my Mothers Group, family and friends.

I feel proud and happy that we found alternate methods that worked for me, my baby and my Husband. Creating Night Nannies and recruiting Nannies and Nurses of the same philosophy was difficult initially but a trickle soon turned into a strong flow and now we have a strong team of specialists who share their experiences, knowledge and training with families who come to us for guidance around Australia.

Night Nannies have had the privilege and opportunity to be invited into many families homes and we work with each family on an individual level. Each family has their own beliefs and feelings and influences. The families we work with utilise us as a support and guide in relation to confidence building in their own abilities and also providing Sleep Guidance in a gentle format with individually tailored programs. We offer realistic expectations of their children and the understanding that babies DON'T sleep through the night and that we DO have to attend to our babies through the night. Although, we can make this an easier path to sleep with gentle techniques and empowerment of parents to believe in their own abilities.

We do not believe in controlled crying but we do work with families who are looking for alternate methods and philosophies in helping their children and themselves to get a good night's sleep.

Posted 07 April 09

What age does your child stop trying to steal your food?

It started from when my son started eating solids. It was cute, wanting a piece of Mummys toast and a spoonful of yoghurt. Then I would sit down to lunch having served my son his lunch to a request of Can I have yours? The cuteness had now warn off and become genuine food theft. A great way to lose weight actually!

I call it baby bird syndrome because it reminds me of the overgrown "baby" Magpies that you see still skwarking for its Mother to find it the next meal and then shove it down its throat. I have thought often about those poor Mummy Maggies constantly running after the teenage looking offspring.

When does it end? My son is now 5 and still wants my food off my plate sometimes even having a tantrum refusing to eat his own until he can have mine. A replica of my food is not good enough, it has to actually be the food off my plate! Is it grass is greener on the other side? Dependancy? Does he secretly think that the food is poisoned? (Poisoned with vegetables) and that mine is somehow better? If anyone has the answer to this dilemma I would love to hear about it.

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Posted 08 April 09

Oh the humilation of trying to get my Mummy body back in shape

Started Karate lessons as the kids have been doing it for 6 months. Cant go wrong when they were offering 6 mths free to family and friends of children already participating. So thought now's my chance, my youngest has just started School I have a bit more time up my sleeve. Off I trot to my first class to get my white belt yay. Well first embarassment was trying to take my wedding ring and engagement ring off my pudgy little fingers. Managed to slip them off.. then slipping or should I say squeezing into the very atrractive white Karate uniform. This uniform is built for a man that is 6 foot with no hips. Ah the joys of looking at myself in the large ballet like training mirrors looking like a rectangular blob trying to copy the Teachers moves. Theyre so great there at the Karate School with encouragement. I must have looked like I needed some extra support as I certainly felt embarassed with the other Adult high belts smoothly running through their routines.

Then nearly keeling over as we were told do running warm exercises. I have realised that I have been living in fantasy land over the last 5yrs and am so out of shape. I hope I can bare the humiliation of looking like a white rectangular blob if there is a light at the end of the tunnel where I am going to be fit, healthy and ready to go to the beach without embarassment next Summer.

Posted 13 April 09

Sleep Guidance Specialist Training

Night Nannies will be offering Sleep Specialist 1-2 day courses with Certificate for Term 3 & 4 of 2009. Please email us to express your interest. Courses will be held in NSW, one hour North of Sydney. Public transport access available and parking. Course is open to applicants from around Australia and any International applicants. The course will cover all aspects of providing Sleep Guidance to families and Postnatal care in family homes.

Posted 15 April 09

More ABC Centres to close? Then why not Nanny share?

If you are one of the Parents suffering under the current uncertain places available with the ABC Child care Centres closing then you might want to consider Nanny sharing. Talk to other parents at your Centre about their Child care arrangements and you may find that other Parents are in the same position as you. You could then come to an arrangement to Nanny share.

What is Nanny sharing?

It is when two families get together to hire a Nanny and share the costs and venues. This halves your costs in hiring a Nanny yet you still get the fantastic benefits of having a professional Nanny care for your child. Nannies can bathe, maintain the house, care for your child, attend social outings such as Playgroup and Gymbaroo and do washing and meal preparation.

Parents can choose to have one house where the care is provided or alternate weekly or every few days.

Just think instead of paying $22 per hour for a Nanny you could be paying $11 per hour or less and being able to enjoy quality time with your little one when you get home instead of having to do all the home duties as well when you return. Email us to inquire today on info@nightnannies.com.au

Posted 24 April 09

Quote of the month

To be happier, don’t make assumptions about other’s motivations . Life is more peaceful when you can convince yourself when your child won’t eat vegetables that a green bean is just a green bean – not an attack on your values, your parenting skills, or your domestic talents. by Elizabeth Pantley

Posted 28 April 09

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